Blake Lively is under fire

What we can learn from the celebrity about relational energy

(Photo from Page Six; DP/30: The Oral History Of Hollywood/Youtube)

If you’re not active on social media, you might have missed it. So let me give you a brief summary.

Actress Blake Lively is out promoting her most recent film This End With Us, which is about domestic violence. 

First, there are rumors of a falling out between her and Justin Baldoni (the director and co-star) as well as stories about Lively having a reputation of being difficult to work with.

Second, her promotion effort seems out of touch. She’s talking about what she’s wearing and her new hairline products, and not steering focus on the topic of domestic violence. 

Third, Lively is being slammed for her rude behavior. A couple of old recordings have resurfaced where she snaps back at the interviewer and acts like the mean girl from Gossip Girl.

Now, all of this could just be a marketing strategy. 

And who care about celebrities, anyway. Right?

Regardless, Blake Lively showcases perfectly what can happen in the absence of relational energy. 

Relational energy is that juicy energy generated in your social interactions that you can’t really put your finger on, but you know if it’s lacking.

You also know when relational energy is present.

It makes you feel good.

It makes you more focused, clear-minded, and motivated.

It’s that stuff that makes you more productive.

You feel successful and like you can do anything.

People want to be around that energy. 

They want to be around you.

How do you create more of it?

1. Practice self-connection. When you are disconnected, when you’re in survival mode, the part of your brain that fosters compassion, collaboration, and love is unavailable. You feel stressed, distrusting, and you might end up barking at your spouse, kids, or coworker.

2. Focus on contributing. Giving of ourselves is the fastest way of getting out of our own heads and into a more positive state of mind. It doesn’t have to take much. HOPE - help one person everyday - is an acronym I try to live by. 

3. Accept that you’re human. We mess up. We snap at people. When you do, apologize. Make it right. Take ownership of your behavior. 

Here’s the thing.

You don’t have to be perfectly behaved all the time.

You don’t have to be kind all the time.

You don’t have to be of service all the time.

But you still want to create relational energy in your daily life and interactions.

We have this opportunity as a human species to be so wildly connected in the way that we impact others and ourselves.

Self-connection is an honor. 

Treat it that way.

With love,

Unni

PS. Whenever you’re ready, here are 3 ways I can help you boost self-connection for better relationships, increased productivity and, really, any time you feel stuck:

1. Hire me as your coach - Transformative results in just a few weeks; shortcuts years of therapy with intuitive readings, energy work, resolving conflict, etc.

2. Hire me to speak at your next event, or train your team and leadership: Connection is the secret to your ultimate success, to productivity, and engagement. I can show you how to reconnect with yourself, your colleagues, your direct reports, and your loved ones. Curious to learn more? Email me at unni@turrettini.com

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